Dave came to me after a long period of discomfort and was feeling not only stuck but also lost.  Through some careful exercises and practices, we worked together to locate him in his discomfort.  Through that process he discovered his tipping point and within the support of our coaching and counseling he began a process of discovery and re-imagining what his career could be.

I asked him if there were any days that were relatively without frustration.  The answer was a resounding no.  In sum over the course of 3 weeks, he had accumulated 104 marks.  In less than a month he had encountered 104 instances in which he noticed he was unhappy enough to necessitate redirecting his thoughts toward something more positive.  And so I asked him how many marks would be necessary before he knew it was time to make some changes.  Was his threshold 110? 150? 300?

“…if someone offers you help, it’s not a declaration of your own insufficiency. It’s very much the opposite—a firm statement that you are worthy, valued, and will succeed.”